Do soulmates exist? A Valentines Day post.

Is there really such a thing as one person we are meant to be with?

Below I have posted the comments on the debate. But, I would like to say, in the week we celebrate Valentines Day, that Soul Mates is a crock of shit.

I know, romantic.

I think this is put in the same category as fate. Something that is predetermined, destined, meant to be. I just don’t believe that anything is not within your ability to change. Relationships, included.

Now, onto Valentines Day. A day dedicated to what? Love?

It is a competition, who can get the best dinner reservations.someecards.com - I managed to secure Valentine's Day dinner reservations at both 4:45 p.m. and 11:30 p.m.

Another pumped up holiday to make us women feel bad because it reminds us of all the romance we don’t have in our life, and the men, to come to terms with the fact that no matter what they do, it will never be good enough.

No matter what store I go into, I am reminded of St. Valentine, the Saint of “Making me feel like shit.”

I hope your Valentines day, lives up to the hype, and you find your soul mate in the process.

DEBATE SOULMATES HERE, COMMENTS BELOW.

http://www.ufeud.com/debate.aspx?ID=199

Carly3020   I really want to believe we all have a soul mate. I truly didn’t marry mine the first time but I’m still hopeful. I’m currently dating and it is very hard but I can honestly say I’m not settling or compromisingI guess that is why I’m still single.! But that is OK because I want the whole thing, I want that soul mate connection. I think when it happens you’ll just know it.

OctoberThats pretty cool that you are holding out. Many people settle for whats available.

Carly3020I guess at this stage of my life I know myself better and i know what I want and deserve. Don’t get me wrong I really hope I don’t end up alone!


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October   Romanticism is dying but its not dead. There are many people who are probably ‘right’ for us, but whats the harm in believing that somebody is perfect for us, even heaven sent.


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Baboosmom   I believe that soul mates do exist and that in a lifetime you can actually have more than one in a lifetime. Hopefully once you find one, you hang onto them so you don’t have to stumble along until you find the next one.


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Cathi   The world is filled with near endless opportunity and choices and our will alone makes things work.

Sun, Sep 25, 2011 at 8:41:13 AM

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Hlymnky   The subtitle states “one person we are meant to be with”. That implies a preordained or pre-established relationship. But preordained where, and by whom? The notion becomes sillier the more I think about it. I’m not sure how the idea of soul mates came about, but I bet it stems from the incredible passion couples feel when they first fall in love. They start to imagine that it was destiny that brought them together, because what were the chances that, let’s say, a guy born in Indiana would happen to meet a girl from NYC at a bar in Philly while they were both on leave from college. It must be Fate that brought them together at such a specific place and time, despite all their different circumstances! Two years later, the passion has fizzled and they suddenly believe they weren’t soul mates after all, when in reality they just don’t want to put in the effort to maintain a commitment past the infatuation phase. They may still love each other, but for many people, love without lust simply isn’t good enough. So, no – soul mates don’t exist. Only choices.


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Rspeakman   Sweet notion, and I only disagree with it slightly: I do believe that there is “one person we are meant to be with”, but I think it’s a person whom we choose and who chooses us out of the billions on the planet; and with whom we then spend a lifetime (ideally) building and nurturing a “soul connection” with. For each one of us, there are lots of candidates out there, and perhaps none that we are ‘fated” to be with; but once we choose one, let the work begin!! It’s so worth it…


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Pundit   Unfortunately, this is a term made up by people who want to believe in fate. The truth as i see it is that we are drawn to people for reasons we dont fully understand because of our own histories, not because of some cosmic intervention.


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Hlymnky   For me, the idea of soul mates – that there are couples out there who are pre-ordained for each other – cheapens relationships and denies free-will. While compatibility is important, ultimately the reason why couples stay together is choice. Relationships are always challenging even in the most compatible of couples, but people in them stay together because they want to put in the work. I’ll repeat that – they want to put in the work. The idea of soul mates trumps this stating that the reason why a couple stays together is because the heavens or cosmos deemed them as a match. That is not only plain silly, but it also disregards the actual effort and choices made by every couple who decide to stay together.

DadvocateI dont believe they are saying people stay together bc its preordained, the idea of soulmates is that couples find each other. What they do after that is up to them and the amount of work they are willing to put in.


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Jpr318   Almost 7 billion people in the world and you are going to find THE one? You may find someone, but to think that you are so special and so lucky to beat that 7 billion to 1 odds is a little naive. I would even give Baboosmom the benefit of the doubt and say 7 billion to 10 is not likely. Humans by their very nature are very adaptive and I put True Love in this category. Adapt to your surroundings to make yourself happy. Where do you think the phrase love is all about compromise comes from :p


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Jpr318   Nope….all propaganda distributed by man-hating women.

Bethnewyork HAHA, you are so rotten…LOL

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