People are fearful of intimacy

One of the scariest aspects of being a human being is rejection. We are afraid of being alone but we are more afraid of being turned down or rebuked in some way. As a result, we find ways of keeping ourselves from perceived vulnerability.

Baboosmom   Sometimes the fear really isn’t of intimacy as much as the fear of abandonment. Some people who come from divorced homes and were made broken promises, tend to get scared if the relationship seems to good to be true. The person always has a fear of being left so why get close to too many people. 


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Jared   I do believe that people are afraid of intimacy. Sunny asked my views and i’m excited to see so much from others. There is a lot that is already written i resonate with. I believe that we fear intimacy because we dont want to be hurt, but also because we are uncomfortable with closeness. Males in particular but women as well regulate closeness based on their comfort…we also tolerate rejection based on our sense of security.


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Damselfly   I agree that people fear revealing too much of themselves. Funny thing is though, there is nothing to fear.


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ShelleyG   People are definitely afraid of intimacy. We seek out the most superficial and immediate gratification experiences imagineable. We are a society of quick fixes so i imagine before long we will see a pill for emotional intimacy problems.


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Kddan   I have a problem with the debate title. It’s just a small thing but you say people are afraid of intimacy. I disagree for the reasons October stated. If you had said people are scared of rejection as you talk about in your description I would have agreed. Who isn’t afraid of opening up their heart to someone and being then told by that person that they are not interested. But I don’t view that as emotional intimacy before someone brings me up on that, for it to be intimacy it has to be shared and mutual. I don’t think it can be one sided.

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October   Do you mean physical or emotional intimacy? I don’t believe that males on the whole are afraid of being physical, especially when feelings arent involved. Women seem to crave emotional intimacy. So on the whole i’d have to disagree.

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